Treat YOU Like a Royalty

 Treat YOU Like a Royalty

It is very easy for everyone of us to go round a table, serving small chops or candies, where we have to wait until the end when everything has gone round “everyone” present, before we return to rest (tired) and then remember that none of those goodies had come into our pocket: we usually miss out on most part of the goodies we share around; not always of course. It is just all too common and feels all so natural that we put ourselves “last” on the list of priorities.

That may be just right of course, depending on the situation, but, like every other base rule, there’s got to be an exception to the implementation of that “put the feelings and needs of others above yours”; there are times when that would be the worst thing you could ever do to yourself. We all know that fingers are not equal, but, we still learnt to understand and appreciate the place of each social strata; nobody competes with the royals when it comes admiration and pampering (privilege that comes with entitlement syndrome), even the super-duper rich fellows in the society are addressed and treated as “royals” when they reach the peak of their games. So, yes, when you deal with a royalty, you know very well the importance of knowing your cards and submitting as appropriate.

The world has grown so harsh and unfeeling, and, all that is left of human feelings in us seem to “need” getting directed at helping others feel better about themselves. Now, do we forget that we are humans with feelings and needs too? Do we just feel it “right” that every other person steps on us and we keep silent about it, because, yes, we do not want to hurt their feelings?

Prudency is very essential of course, but, yeah, there is the justified need for you to serve yourself a cup of coffee to your very own “perfect” taste! It is okay and praiseworthy to sacrifice your fantasy and cravings once in a while, seeking the common good, providing for other people from the “extras” you could have had all to yourself, putting the needs of others above your wants. However, as I said earlier, it gets all so wrong the moment you make that an “always” thing where your desires have become “extravagance” and therefore needs be thrashed, where you work tirelessly but never get the “VIP” treatment because, well, there are other essential things to attend to; it gets so wrong when you have forbidden yourself from ever enjoying that nice VIP treatment, when you have become the servant of your own hands, when you have become the old slippers that everyone can slip their feet into whenever they need to visit the restroom: yeah, that isn’t always like it, but, that is just what you are doing to yourself, and you will agree when you start to give it a deep thought.

Of course, this is not just about material benefits of life, it goes way beyond it. We all know this saying about the best gift you can give anyone being “TIME”, right? That is from the luxuries that we usually feel everyone in our lives deserve but not ourselves. We overexert ourselves and burn ourselves out in trying to “be there” for the people that matter in our lives; yes, we turn ourselves in the backseat and recline resignedly therein with silent hopelessness with taints of dejection. Why shouldn’t you give yourself a break when you feel the need for it? Why shouldn’t you take some time off for yourself, to clear your head and review your plans; we all need that break for “self” and away from all of the world at intervals, yeah? But, it is too much luxury, somebody would get hurt, somebody would feel neglected, somebody would… why don’t you become that “somebody” for once and sprinkle yourself with all of the sparkles you deserve? Yes, treat yourself like a royalty and be free of the strings and shackles from the world… add all the cream and sugar you need to your cup of coffee and down it all! You deserve it!

Something else we usually fail to give to ourselves, though very much deserved, is RESPECT. Yes, respect is reciprocal they say; so, that makes it seem like everybody deserves respect but “self”. And, that is rather sadly wrong! Self-respect is a wall that should never be compromised in anybody’s life; there is no replacement for it, you know? You’d respect everybody’s feelings, opinions, privacy, rules, and whatever else, but, you’d leave yourself at the mercy of others which is just not fair! You know, we need to understand the place of self-esteem and confidence when we discuss this, and yes, it determines how much respect and value you give to yourself and your opinions/stands. It is fine, perfectly fine, for you to concede to another’s idea and compromise on yours once in a while, but, that shouldn’t be a “refuge”, a “go to” avenue every single time another comes up with an opinion different from yours or holds a different value that opposes yours; that’s the highest form of disrespect you can give to yourself, and it leaves you feeling as though you’re empty (in the head) and worthless (in personality). A quote I once come across reads “respect YOU enough to be bold enough to leave any table where respect is no longer being served”. You deserve to be respected too, and that starts with knowing and appreciating your onions.

Now, what I would call basically most essential for any and every life; LOVE! This is quite a deal breaker for most of us; we look towards the outside world and her people for the mildest validation, and, this usually just turns against us (despite the fact that this isn’t ever ideal for us, we still can’t help doing it over and again, due to some past events that have influenced our mindset and self-concept especially from the early years). Love comes with the full package of course; there is respect, appreciation, attention, affection, confidence, mental stability, and so very many other important virtues that remain invaluable to our healthy living and growth. How much do you love yourself? Yes, we all try to not dote too much on ourselves and spare the world some of the magnanimity of our hearts and souls… but, should that degrade us to the point where there’s basically nothing left for our own selves?

Treat YOU like a royalty, you deserve it! You should feel free to shower enough of those goodies on yourself in order to remain in charge of the reins of the affairs and wheels of your life. Shower yourself with sincere praises, due adoration and appreciation, right and helpful friends and acquaintances, realistic dreams that reflect your passion and talents, and all of those beautiful things you freely give out to others, because, yes, you have all the right to those bounties too! Stay safe and stay strong!

You are loved… You are important… You are amazing… You are Royalty!

MBS 🍒